Too Nice

I wonder why ladies tend to ignore the “nice guy” because he cherishes the woman he is with by showering her with love and kindness but fight over the guy who a) doesn’t give them the time of day; or b) dogs them out by disrespecting them and not acknowledging their worth.
I have to admit I was one of those ladies. Even in high school when a good friend of mine tried to hook me up with a fellow class mate that was and still is one of the sweetest guys I know but I didn’t want to give him the time of day. Since then I regretted not giving him a chance because then I would have known what it was like to be treated like a Lady; be respected, doted upon, and my worth acknowledged.

It took me some time to recognize my own worth going from bad relationship to bad marriage. But I had to come to terms with WHY I was attracting all the negative which in turn led me to STOP attracting the ignorant, thuggish, bamas. I am an intelligient, beautiful, respected woman that deserves a “nice guy” who realizes my worth and wants to be a part my future because it is going to be a glorious one.

I had to learn where the hurt was coming from that I would allow people like that in my life. You are always in control of HOW someone treats you. If you are being disrespected you can always turn that around and not necessarily by fighting either. Now sometimes we come across the path of ignorant people who only know one way of handling disputes (with violence). But we women that love ourselves and use our minds know how to handle things diplomatically without having to lift a finger or break a nail. That is what distinguishes a female as a Lady or Real Woman.

So if you meet a man and you automatically say, “I can’t date him because he’s too nice.” Stop and ask yourself what DO you want in a man? Someone who is going to debate with you about everything? Pick a fight with you every now and then? Someone who’s going to hurt your feelings? To me that is a manipulator, user, and abuser. Stop and think about the person you are and then think about your weaknesses. That is what you should look for in a man. Look for someone who can be strong where you are weak and vice versa. I know that is what I am searching for! All the nice guys stand up and give yourselves a pat on the back and thank your mama (and your dad if you had one) for bringing you up right!!!